Wednesday, April 30, 2008


Today it is right to the questions.

If you only had one month to live, who would you spend it with.

For me there is zero hesitation here. I would spend as much time with my wife and kids as possible. There are a few others who I would want around, yet the bulk of my time would be with them. My mother, brother, and my covenant group round out the list. Those are the people who matter most to me.

Who has disappointed you most in life?

I would have to say that it was my dad. My dad was a pastor and while counseling with a women had an extramarital affair. My parents never got back together because that is what my dad chose. This happened when I was graduating from college and just starting life. This was also the event that delayed the pursuit of my calling to ministry. After a few years and many difficult conversations I settle the issue with my dad, and months later he died.

It seems as those whom we want to spend our time with most carry the highest ability to hurt and disappoint us. I think about this with my family. Not that I am looking for them to hurt or disappoint me. Totally on the other side. They have shared with me how much the long to spend time with me, I just hope I can minimize the hurt and disappointment.

The only way I know how to do this is to remain connected with God (John 15), and to live pure. That is to make the most of every moment I get with them.

1 comment:

Pastor Bill said...


Good question to consider - you are on my list.
I think people are most likely to disappoint me when I have an unrealistic expectation of them. Sometimes, when even realistic expectations are violated the cut is very, very deep.
I am proud of you and the man you are.

love Bill